In the journey of growing up, few topics hold as much significance and mystery as human sexuality. For many of us, discussions about sex were either conspicuously absent or shrouded in awkwardness during our formative years. It is an unfortunate reality that, far too often, parents hesitate or feel uncomfortable with addressing this essential aspect of life with their children, thus leaving them to navigate the complexities of sexuality on their own.
In this candid exploration, we delve into the intimate revelations of what many of us wished our mothers would have shared with us about sex. Beyond the clinical basics, we yearn for the wisdom and guidance that only a mother can impart – the emotional and psychological dimensions that complete the puzzle of our sexual understanding. By opening up this dialogue, we aim to shed light on the unspoken, untold, and overlooked aspects of sexuality that could have shaped us into more confident, empowered, and fulfilled individuals.
Your First Kiss
You only get one first kiss. I know you want to do it because everyone else has done it, and that’s ok. But, remember there is so much joy in that kiss. I hope the one you chose is a good kisser. If, not the next one will be better.
Your Relationship with Your Body
Your body is perfect with all its imperfections. I love you my child, for all that you are! G-D gave you a body that may be not be of your liking, but I love every ounce of you. What other people think of you is none of YOUR business. When people talk about you, it’s either that they are jealous of you, or they say mean things just so they can feel better about their own imperfections.
No BODY is perfect.
I regret not telling you how much I loved my own body. All children need to be exposed to positive messages about all the bodies in their family. I want you to feel comfortable in your own skin and walk with confidence.
Your body is a miracle. As a female, it has the ability to do things that male bodies cannot do. We bleed every month and that does not make us ‘dirty’. I know it might be embarrassing or make you feel shy but here’s a little bag I bought for you to take to school in case you get your period there. Call me as soon as you see a slight brownish or reddish stain on your panties. Remember we packed that bag together? Don’t listen to your friends if they call you a ‘slut’ if you use tampons, or that pads are ‘gross’.
Your body changes and transforms and that’s perfectly normal. Your body goes through physical changes growing up and after having a baby. I knew my body would be different but I had no idea just how different: your breasts change, you gain weight, your skin gets loose, pimples become the norm and your hips change.
Remember to love the skin you’re in.
Heartbreak
You will have your heart broken—and yes, I do understand what you’re going through. It will be sad and you will feel as though you will never recover, BUT, I will be there to rub your back, give you hugs, make you tea, and let you cry as much as you want. Unfortunately, it won’t be the first time, or the last.
Breaking the ‘Rules’
You can be anything you want to be, regardless of of your gender.
Own Your Pleasure
You don’t have to be ‘that girl’ behind the bicycle shed at school giving head when you know how to pleasure yourself. When you know that you can experience your own pleasure, you will make sure there is something in it for you too behind the bicycle shed.
There is so much to tell you about sex. The most important suggestion I can give you is to know your own pleasure. Remember you are a GODDESS and you are entitled to receive pleasure. If you are not getting what you want, you need to leave. Own your sexuality. Don’t let someone else control it.