Services
What is intimacy?
Intimacy is about connection. It’s that deep sense of closeness and understanding that can develop over time or be felt instantly. People experience intimacy in different ways—sexually, emotionally, intellectually, physically (quality time), and spiritually. But at its core, intimacy is about feeling truly seen and valued by another person.
While women crave emotional intimacy, and men tend to crave sexual intimacy, what they both crave is connection. Understanding and respecting these differences will give the couple more information about how to create connection within their entire relationship.
Communication is the key to every successful relationship. Communication leads to connection, but for that to happen, the couple needs to be present, curious, have empathy, and show up for each other.
A balanced relationship nurtures all forms of intimacy.
- Sexual intimacy is the blend of physical connection and emotional closeness, where desire, trust, and communication come together to create deep, fulfilling experiences between partners.
- Physical intimacy (quality time) thrives when couples make time to be together without external distractions.
- Emotional intimacy deepens when there’s a safe space to share thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without judgment.
- Intellectual intimacy grows when couples engage in meaningful conversations, share opinions, goals, and explore ideas together.
- Spiritual intimacy is about being conscious and mindful of each other’s presence, energy, and beliefs—creating a foundation of trust and empathy.
In the early days of a relationship, passion and sexual intimacy flow naturally. But as life’s responsibilities take centre stage, emotional intimacy and quality time can become harder to maintain. Fear of vulnerability can lead couples to shut down rather than open up. The key is to stay connected—to keep talking, keep touching, and keep prioritising each other.
Intimacy isn’t static; it evolves and requires conscious effort. By prioritising connection, committing to open communication, and focusing on pleasure, couples can navigate the complexities of life while maintaining a deep and fulfilling bond.
Singles
Dating and relationships can feel overwhelming—especially if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, experiencing heartbreak, or feeling unsure about what you want. Singles therapy is about gaining clarity, breaking old patterns, and building self-confidence in love and relationships.
Who is this for?
This service is ideal for individuals who:
- Feel stuck in toxic relationship cycles
- Struggle with self-worth and boundaries in dating
- Want to attract a healthy, fulfilling relationship
- Need support in processing a breakup or relationship trauma
- Wanting to explore their lost sexual parts
Couples
For couples, Totally Me provides tools to reconnect sexually, emotionally, intellectually. physically and spiritually. Coaching will facilitate the process of re-patterning old behaviour and challenge existing and dysfunctional patterns.
Find out where you have both been over the past decade, whilst raising children, making ends-meet and building a future for your family.
Who is this for?
- Couples feeling disconnected and looking to rebuild intimacy and connection
- Partners who want to communicate more effectively and resolve conflict in healthier ways
- Those navigating sexless relationships, infidelity, or emotional distance
- Couples who are committed to growth and want to deepen their relationship intentionally
- Anyone who feels like they’ve become roommates instead of lovers and wants to find their way back to each other
Group Workshops
Group workshops provide a safe, engaging space to explore topics like communication, intimacy, conflict resolution, and personal growth. These interactive sessions help you learn, reflect, and connect with others who share similar experiences.
Who is this for?
- Couples and individuals looking for practical relationship tools
- Those interested in personal growth and self-discovery
- Anyone navigating relationship struggles and seeking guidance
- Those who believe that they are the only ones experiencing challenges
Fee Structure
R1500 for 60 min session.
R1800 for 90 min session.
Totally Me is a cash practice. Payment is required upfront.
Medical Aid rates apply*
Online sessions available.
I knew we had to do something, our home life and children were taking the brunt of our mess. The conventional way of sitting down with a marriage counsellor just didn’t feel right … we needed something else.
Finding Tracy has been the best blessing and we are so grateful to her.
Tracy sat us down, her warm smile and good sense of humour coaxed us into her room. Through her very caring and understanding ways listened to our stories. No judgement whatsoever, creating a safe space for the two of us to pour our hearts out. Lots of tears, frustration and anger unleashed itself in her safe cocoon of space.
She made us realize that although we had lost our way, one thing was evident the love that we that we still had for one another was still there.
We are now in a much stronger space, Tracy has taught us that a marriage is not a given and you need to constantly work at it … step out of your comfort zone, you are never too old to try new things and as my husband put it so beautifully we have now entered a new phase of our marriage. He is very excited at Tracy’s ideas of homework. I am mildly terrified … making me step out of my comfort zone and knowing that it’s okay!
I can’t recommend Tracy enough, and although there is still work to be done, knowing Tracy is there to hold our hands makes the journey not so daunting.
Thank you Tracy