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Totally Me is focused

on helping people become more intimate with themselves and their relationships.


Individuals need to understand their

own personal needs before exploring intimacy with a partner.


If you’re feeling removed

or distant from your partner, you have come to the right place!


Totally Me

Explore Intimacy Therapy with 50% off your first initial consultation.

The Intimacy Curve

Up to 30 years old
Between 30 & 50 years old
From 50 years & above

Learning Intimacy


Younger couples and individuals, between the ages of 18-30, begin to learn how to negotiate new relationships as they discover themselves as sexual beings. In the beginning of a budding relationship, the affair is intense, and sexual experiences should be high and uninhibited. The couple discover intimacy whilst exploring and understanding each other.

Lack of time for intimacy


This stage continues between the ages of 30-50, as the couple move into a stage of permanence and eventually marriage. The family begins to grow, and transit into a stage of life filled with challenges and stresses that may threaten the stability of the family unit. Intimacy may be lost completely, and couples struggle to find the time or desire to reconnect.


Intimacy lost


The ’empty nest’ syndrome has begun to sink in as children leave the home. Couples, at this stage, may begin to face other challenges such as looming retirement, menopause, changes in health status, or simply bad habits have become entrenched in the relationship and the couple face completely new challenges as they get to know each other again as individuals who may have  simply “grown apart”.


Understanding Vaginismus

Intimacy and Relationship Coach, Tracy Ziman Jacobs sheds some light on vaginismus. Vaginismus is a common disorder that not many people have heard of, yet many…
July 24, 2020


Listen to Tracy Ziman Jacobs
live and in studio with Pabi Moloi
live on Power FM

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Tracy is a gifted therapist who has the ability to quickly identify and shed light on the core issues negatively impacting a relationship. 12 years into my relationship and marriage, Tracy was able to make sense of age old and current issues and point out areas of opportunity for both my husband and myself from day 1. Her guidance and advice has always been fair and constructive, even whilst having to deal with issues that some may consider "deal breakers". Five years prior to meeting Tracy, my husband and I consulted with another therapist for a couple months. I can say with confidence that Tracy is highly intuitive, effective, mature, and respectful with a great sense of humor and compassion. I look forward to her being a part of my marriage for as long as required.

- Anonymous

When we first met Tracy we were a complicated mess ... complete strangers to one another after so many years, caught up with feelings of feeling unloved, unwanted and unseen.

I knew we had to do something, our home life and children were taking the brunt of our mess. The conventional way of sitting down with a marriage counsellor just didn’t feel right ... we needed something else.

Finding Tracy has been the best blessing and we are so grateful to her.

Tracy sat us down, her warm smile and good sense of humour coaxed us into her room. Through her very caring and understanding ways listened to our stories. No judgement whatsoever, creating a safe space for the two of us to pour our hearts out. Lots of tears, frustration and anger unleashed itself in her safe cocoon of space.

She made us realize that although we had lost our way, one thing was evident the love that we that we still had for one another was still there.

We are now in a much stronger space, Tracy has taught us that a marriage is not a given and you need to constantly work at it ... step out of your comfort zone, you are never too old to try new things and as my husband put it so beautifully we have now entered a new phase of our marriage. He is very excited at Tracy’s ideas of homework. I am mildly terrified ... making me step out of my comfort zone and knowing that it’s okay!

I can’t recommend Tracy enough, and although there is still work to be done, knowing Tracy is there to hold our hands makes the journey not so daunting.

Thank you Tracy ❣️

- Anonymous