Totally Me Intimacy & Relationship Coaching

Your relationship doesn’t have to feel like a struggle. Whether you’re dealing with conflict, a sexless marriage, emotional disconnection,

or communication breakdowns—I help couples find their way back to each other.

About Tracy

Tracy Ziman Jacobs is a Social Worker and Intimacy and Relationship Coach based in Sandton, Johannesburg.

“I know firsthand how relationships lose their spark. I’ve lived it.

I became an intimacy and relationship coach because I saw how couples—just like I once did—slowly drift apart. It doesn’t happen overnight. It’s the quiet moments: the kisses that stop, the conversations that dry up, the emotional and physical distance that grows. My own marriage breakdown led me to ask deeper questions: Why does desire fade? Why do so many couples stop having sex? What’s really behind the emotional disconnection in long-term relationships?

What I found was that the problem wasn’t just about sex—but about everything that surrounds it: communication, trust, vulnerability, feeling truly seen by your partner.

Understanding the relational paradigm between people became my life’s passion. Today, I help individuals and couples rediscover intimacy, reignite desire, and reconnect in ways they never thought possible.”

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Testimonials

Tracy saved our relationship. Truly

This experience has brought us so much closer together and allowed us to understand not only our triggers, traumas and self-narratives, but allowed a safe place to share and understand our partner’s as well. This experience has truly been so worthwhile, and I wish we had gone sooner. We now have deep emotional and sexual intimacy with tools to continue to nourish and expand it further, coupled with the grace of understanding and accepting of ourselves and our partner. We are so grateful for this experience

Anonymous

Tracy provides a professional, personal, and high quality service to her clients

Tracy has created a space in which her clients feel relaxed and nurtured and are able to learn valuable tools and techniques. Her workshops promote a sense of enthusiasm and inspiration for both men and women.

Anne-Marie Clulow

Intimacy Coach

Tracy is a gifted therapist who has the ability to quickly identify and shed light on the core issues negatively impacting a relationship

12 years into my relationship and marriage, Tracy was able to make sense of age old and current issues and point out areas of opportunity for both my husband and myself from day 1. Her guidance and advice has always been fair and constructive, even whilst having to deal with issues that some may consider “deal breakers”.

Five years prior to meeting Tracy, my husband and I consulted with another therapist for a couple months. I can say with confidence that Tracy is highly intuitive, effective, mature, and respectful with a great sense of humour and compassion. I look forward to her being a part of my marriage for as long as required.

Anonymous

Thank You Tracy

When we first met Tracy we were a complicated mess … complete strangers to one another after so many years, caught up with feelings of feeling unloved, unwanted and unseen.

I knew we had to do something, our home life and children were taking the brunt of our mess. The conventional way of sitting down with a marriage counsellor just didn’t feel right … we needed something else.

Finding Tracy has been the best blessing and we are so grateful to her.

Tracy sat us down, her warm smile and good sense of humour coaxed us into her room. Through her very caring and understanding ways listened to our stories. No judgement whatsoever, creating a safe space for the two of us to pour our hearts out. Lots of tears, frustration and anger unleashed itself in her safe cocoon of space.

She made us realize that although we had lost our way, one thing was evident the love that we that we still had for one another was still there.

We are now in a much stronger space, Tracy has taught us that a marriage is not a given and you need to constantly work at it … step out of your comfort zone, you are never too old to try new things and as my husband put it so beautifully we have now entered a new phase of our marriage. He is very excited at Tracy’s ideas of homework. I am mildly terrified … making me step out of my comfort zone and knowing that it’s okay!

I can’t recommend Tracy enough, and although there is still work to be done, knowing Tracy is there to hold our hands makes the journey not so daunting.

Thank you Tracy

Meeting Tracy was an inspiration itself

Tracy made us feel calm and open to possibility in a very professional and personal way. She introduced us to a space of trust where we were relaxed and ready to learn new ways to understand more and work better together. She always provided a setting that gave us a platform to see each other in a welcoming light and not just in the conflicting way.